The hardest breakup I've ever had

The hardest breakup to date, was the one with my old self.

My girl Amber inspired this post because I watched her close her salon after 7 years of a thriving career.

Thriving I said.

It’s one thing to break up with someone because they treat you like trash. It’s a whole other ballgame to break up with someone because they are so great, but they’re no longer the great you need.

So after 11 years. Going from Confidence is K.E.E to Aurelia Michale Living to Voice On Demand. Going from charging $25 an hour and only working with dancers to charging my worth and working with every spectrum of age, race, pronoun, and pursuit. From reading a book that was 60 pages long about coaching, to having had 7 affiliate coaches working beside me, to closing that business and pretending to myself that I was done with entrepreneurship. Voice On Demand was a never a dream, but I found out it was a calling.

Whew. Haven’t typed that out loud yet lol.

But even as I type it, it feels right. And it feels timely.

I had to breakup with the idea that I personally was meant to follow for the rest of my life and hang up my leadership cape. So, if it’s time for your breakup from a person, place, or thing as we head into this new year, here’s my best incite.

*Trust your intuition. Even if it ends up being a poor decision, in the long run it’s a decision You Made. Being decisive is one of the hardest attributes to honor within yourself because we are privy to too much information. Don’t let anything sway you once your gut tells you what needs to happen.

*Only tell those who matter and those who care. I have been the Queen of announcements and process sharing since I could remember. Everyone doesn’t need to know, as that can lead to opinion giving and unsolicited advice.

*Set boundaries now. First for and with yourself, and then with your breakup. Know your why for that boundary, and stand strong in it. At times I went back to someone because I was (a) lonely (b) bored (c) confused (d) indecisive and honestly, scared.

But what you’re going towards will eventually overshadow what you are leaving behind.   

Cheers to the hardest break ups to come. They’re needed. Trust.